FIVE COMMUNICATION STYLES & NEGATIVE COMMUNICATION EXAMPLES ? Communication styles in relationships are key to quality connection, and if you’ve experienced negative communication or want to know the 5 communication styles examples, this training will help! Getting the right examples of communication styles and knowing the 5 communication styles is needed to embrace the RIGHT styles and avoid the negative communication styles. Communication styles and skills can really make or break a connection with someone and if your communication style is one of these different communication styles then you can quickly learn to adjust your different styles of communication to the person that you’re with. Enjoy! ?
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1. The Assertive Communication Style
This is the healthiest and the most recommended communication style because it is upfront. It is really honest, it's authentic and also it is balanced. So this is one really important thing so this particular person actually makes sure that she creates win-win situations but she will not sell out on herself.
She will assert her needs. She will assert the desires that are right for her while also keeping the other needs in mind as well. This person is compassionate and she's also very, very confident.
Now I call that in my six feminine archetypes, “the Queen”. “The Queen” is the nice balance between the bitch, Who's just, self-absorbed, just focused on herself, is really disconnected from the other person but definitely confident. And the doormat who is actually really connected and very loving and warm, but doesn't respect herself. So the assertive style is really the queen of the styles.
2. The Aggressive Communication Style
Now, as the word has already promised or reveals, the aggressive communication style is much more threatening. It's more this bully approach. “I'm going to make you agree with me. I don't really care what you have to say.” So it's really a more intrusive communication style. It's definitely much more straightforward and really inconsiderate and it's really more about my way or the highway.
So you may find some of those communication styles around narcissists. That is just really more interested in their own interest and they're willing to leave everybody alongside. They're really not interested in creating any situation where both parties benefit. They're just looking out for themselves.
Obviously, it’s a negative communication style example, because it's not going to create long term friendship, trust relationships, or any instead, you're actually creating a lot of disruptions in your relationships, at work and it's just not going to work long term at all, even though short term, you may get what you want.
3. The Passive Aggressive Communication Style
This is probably one of the more dangerous communication styles because here the person is actually much more covert versus overt in intercommunication style. So there's actually a lot of anger and a lot of resentment in the person herself, but she has just not been able to communicate that directly due to upbringing.
Maybe it wasn't safe to speak up, maybe she had to be a people pleaser. So she'll be much more passive-aggressive in her approach and what that really means is that, maybe some sarcasm underlying, there may be withdrawal, there may be maybe sudden disconnected, miscommunication.
That is happening between the two of you. Where you're just “wait a minute, something is just off. It's something okay? Is everything okay?” And she'll say “Yeah, everything is okay with you. Everything is okay with me.” And in reality, no nothing is okay. it's a totally passive-aggressive move. There's sometimes just a little mention of something on the side and you almost don't catch it.
So they don't outright say, “I don't agree with you,” but they're much more “It's okay, it's whatever,” So they play down and then minimize it very, very, very dangerous and a lot of women who give their power away who are raised to be people-pleasers, who are raised to be perfectionist, they will end up in a much more likely in that passive-aggressive communication style, because what happens is they still assert themselves from the inside, but they can't do it because it's socially not accepted or they're afraid of the shame that will have come afterward, so it comes out sideways.
So the passive-aggressive style, I see this as the sideways communication style. And it also comes out often as vicious and very, very distorted. It's really out of context and you just feel what this person says and then the energy is not matching, there is an incongruence there. There's a high level of lack of trust there. a high level of mistrust. So definitely also a very negative communication style, not recommended.
4. The Submissive Communication Style
Okay, so we just talked about the doormat. And we just talked about passive-aggressive. Now this particular case, this is definitely the people pleaser also Codependence falls into that category where people are just always agreeing. They're saying yes to everything and yes, I'm on board, yes, you can come over and there are absolutely no boundaries.
Those people also have a real weak sense of self, a weak sense of core identity inside of themselves, and instead are caught up in other people's energy the whole time. So they're actually following along with what the other person wants.
But their agenda is what they want to accomplish for the day or for their life, and they totally forget what they actually want or again, due to their childhood experiences, it was simply not safe to actually speak up. So they actually tried to agree as much as possible. So if you have a friend, a partner who is a little bit more to submissive communication style, it's important to open up a little bit more the safe space for them and actually say, “you you're really safe. I really want to hear what you really have to say,” and just really make that conflict much more enjoyable so to say.
Make it much more of a connected experience for them, rather than a confronting experience. So this is how you are going to help a submissive communication style to actually speak their truth and create long term harmony and connection between the two of you.
5. The Manipulative Communication Style
Now, this is really, really a very dangerous style. And oftentimes you can tell, there's a lot of manipulation that takes place through guilt-tripping, through potentially being sleazy. You see that actually on Survivor if you ever watched that reality TV show. Which is all about how to deceive other people. And so it's really bad, they have the best interests in mind for themselves, but not for you and they actually knowingly manipulate you.
They want you to feel sad at that moment. They want you to feel guilty at that moment. They want you to feel angry at that moment. They want to get a reaction out of you at that moment. That's what really feeds them. And oftentimes these manipulative tactics are being used to actually distract from themselves, from their own insecurities that they, of course, have inside of themselves.
Or maybe even the things that they get themselves into that are actually not so healthy and maybe something that they could be blamed for and they want to distract themselves away from that project away from themselves. And instead, they gaslight you and manipulate you. So, of course, watch out for that particular communication style and also make sure that you don't accidentally use it yourself.
So those are the five communication styles and also some negative examples that you should not use because they're not really helping you in the long run and also how to identify them if somebody else uses them on you.
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