Is there a specific man you want to fully commit to you? A man you want to give you his heart, to desire you, to want you in his life so much that he will do whatever it takes to protect you, provide for you, and love you deeply?
And do you want that without the fear underneath it, the part of you that lies awake wondering whether he is losing interest, whether he is about to pull away, whether he will eventually choose someone else or just quietly leave?
That fear is what I want to take off you. Not with a script or a trick, but with the principles underneath all of it.
I am Brody Boyd. Together with my wife Antia, we have spent over 20 years combined helping thousands of successful women all over the world attract loving, long-term, committed relationships with the men they want, without loneliness, frustration, or years lost to the wrong situation.
What follows is my Feminine Polarity Manifesto. It is the bedrock. Every technique we teach sits on top of these principles, and most of them will cut against something you have been told your whole adult life.
You Have Been Lied To In Romance
A masculine man does not desire a strong independent woman.
He does not care about your financial success, your education, or your career achievements when it comes to attraction and polarity. Those things may earn his admiration. They do not create desire.
A man does not want an equal partner in the romantic sense. He wants a feminine woman and a polarized relationship, even when he says otherwise. Especially when he says otherwise.
I know how that lands. Sit with it anyway, because everything below depends on it.
What Does Not Work, No Matter How Justified You Feel
Telling a man what to do will push him away.
Criticizing a man will not make him want to become better for you.
Punishing a man will not make him want to change.
Complaining to a man will not make him want to fix the problem.
A man does not want to compete with you.
Withholding your feelings or stonewalling will not make him want to find out what is wrong. It will make him relieved that the conversation did not happen.
Every one of those is something a reasonable, intelligent woman does when she is hurt and wants things to change. That is what makes this so painful. The instinct is understandable and the result is the opposite of what you wanted.
What Is Actually Magnetic
Being vulnerable and being feminine is not a weakness. They are the most magnetic things about you.
Sharing your feelings does not push a man away, unless it is done to try to get something or to manipulate him.
Even being anxious or needy does not push a man away, unless it is done to try to get something or to manipulate him. Read that one twice. It is not the emotion that repels him. It is the agenda attached to it.
A man wants a woman who believes she is worthy enough to ask for what she desires.
The Principles That Govern All Of It
Here is the truth underneath everything. The only thing that creates strong attraction, passion, and chemistry long term is masculine and feminine polarity.
All women have a feminine essence at their core. All men have a masculine essence at their core.
When a man is interested in you, he feels rewarded by knowing he is making you happy. Appreciation is one of the best ways to give him that.
A man’s deepest need in a relationship is to be respected. A woman’s deepest need is to be adored. That single difference explains most of the fights you have had.
Presenting a feeling, a desire, or a problem to a man in a feminine way activates his masculine hero instinct and makes him want to solve it for you.
When a man truly cares for a woman, he wants to be her provider, protector, and lover. A man who is with you will always want to protect and provide for you. If he does not, that simply means there is no masculine and feminine polarity present.
A man feels responsible for the woman he is with when she is in her feminine energy. He wants to lead a woman he cares about, but only if it makes her happy.
Two Things Most Women Get Wrong
The first is sex and timing. Having sex with a man before you are in an emotionally committed, monogamous relationship will often make him not want to commit to you.
The second is subtler and more common. Many women believe they are in their feminine energy when they are actually wearing a feminine mask. The tone is soft. The words are gentle. Underneath, she is still operating from her masculine and still trying to control the outcome.
A man feels the difference immediately, even if he could not name it. This is why women tell me they have tried everything and nothing worked. Often they were doing the right moves from the wrong place.
And If He Still Does Not Show Up
If you are genuinely in your feminine energy and a man is still not giving you what you need over time, then you need to detach from that relationship.
I am not saying that lightly. But polarity works both ways. If you are radiating and he is not responding, you have your answer, and staying will only cost you years.
Modern dating culture will not lead you to the relationship happiness you are looking for. It was not built for it.
What To Do Next
If you want a loving, long-term, committed relationship with the man you want, you need to be in your authentic feminine energy and operating from your feminine core as much as possible.
Learning feminine communication, along with the practices and principles behind it, is what softens you into that energy and makes you irresistible to him. Not a performance of softness. The real thing.
To find out where you actually are right now, and to get a coaching recommendation built around that, take our free feminine polarity quiz below.
I hope this was helpful. Much love, and I look forward to talking with you again soon.
