You’re tired. You’re tired of giving so much and getting so little back. You’re tired of trying to do everything right just to get him to finally see your worth. You’ve tried loving harder, being nicer, proving your loyalty, and maybe even doing things for him that left you feeling empty or resentful. But still… you don’t feel cherished. You don’t feel chosen. You don’t feel like the queen in your relationship.
That’s because you’re trying to give from your feminine, when what a healthy man truly needs — is for you to receive.
When you stop doing all the work, when you stop being the one who tries to “fix it” or earn love… everything shifts. And you draw in a man who is proud to give to you, to support you, to protect you, and to lead you with strength and love. Because he wants to — not because he has to.
I’m Brody Boyd with Magnetize Your Man, and together with my wife Antia, we’ve helped thousands of successful women all around the world get into loving, long-term, and committed relationships with high-quality men they desire — for over 20 years combined. We’ve spoken on stages like Google, the Harvard University Faculty Club, and Good Morning San Diego — but what matters most is helping women like you feel safe, loved, and deeply chosen by a man who gives to you without being asked.
Today, I’m going to show you why a man needs to give to you — and how you being in your feminine energy is the greatest gift you could ever offer him. This one shift could save your love life, stop your heartbreak pattern, and finally allow you to attract your king.
Let’s dive in.
Criticism Kills Connection: Why Giving From Masculine Energy Pushes Him Away
Let’s start with this hard truth — criticism is masculine energy. And when you bring masculine energy into the relationship, you turn off his natural desire to give to you.
You might not even notice you’re doing it. A sarcastic comment. A little eye roll. A “helpful suggestion” that actually just sounds like, “You’re not doing enough.” These small moments, especially when they come from a woman, crush a man’s soul.
When a man feels criticized, judged, or “mothered,” he doesn’t feel like your hero anymore — he feels like your project.
This shuts him down. He becomes emotionally distant. And eventually, he pulls away altogether.
But it’s not just about how he feels. It’s about you. Criticism also damages your feminine core. When you’re in a space of judgment, sarcasm, or trying to “teach him a lesson,” you disconnect from your heart. From your softness. From your radiance. And that makes it even harder for him to show up and give to you.
So what’s the shift?
Appreciation.
When you lift him up instead of tearing him down, even subtly, you awaken the part of him that wants to provide, protect, and pour into you.
Masculine men thrive when they’re allowed to give. Let him.
He Was Made To Love You — If You Let Him
There’s a powerful analogy I shared in the video that really stuck with women: the story of Eve being created from Adam’s rib — not from his head or his feet, but from his side.
Why? Because that’s where a man is meant to carry you — at his side. Protected under his arm. Close to his heart. Equal in value. Different in role.
A healthy masculine man doesn’t want to dominate you. He doesn’t want to control you. He wants to lead you out of love. Because when you’re happy — that’s when he feels like a man.
The Bible even says, “Love your wife as you love yourself.” But that only works when the man actually loves himself. If he’s broken, if he’s disconnected, if he’s full of shame or self-hate, then he literally can’t give to you. He can’t love you well because he’s not in touch with love at all.
And that’s not something you can fix. He has to do that work on his own. He has to step into his own king energy. Your job? Stay in your feminine. Let your light inspire his rise — but don’t drag him up the mountain.
Is This What You Really Want?
There’s a viral image online that shows a woman in a business suit, towering over a man who’s barefoot in an apron, bowing down, and thanking her for taking care of him.
It’s meant to flip the script — where now you are the provider, the protector, the powerful one… and he is the one at home, waiting to be taken care of.
But here’s the question I asked women watching the show: Do you actually want that?
Do you want to be the one out in the world every day earning the money, solving all the problems, carrying the weight of the world on your back — and then come home to a man who’s also waiting on you to lead?
Or do you want to come home to your protector? To your king? To a man who holds you, takes care of you, and makes you feel like the most important woman in the world?
You were not created to be his mother. You were created to be his queen.
Let go of the lies that say you need to be the man in the relationship. Let him step into that role, and instead — relax into your own.
That’s when everything shifts.
You Are The Gift — Stop Trying To Earn Him
A healthy masculine man doesn’t want your money. He doesn’t want your efforts. He doesn’t want you to “make it up to him” or “pull your weight.”
All he wants… is you.
Your joy. Your openness. Your heart. Your feminine energy. That’s the gift.
In one of the most powerful memes we shared, it said this:
“When your husband says he doesn’t want anything for Christmas… he means it. He already has everything he wants. You.”
And it’s true.
So many women are out here trying to earn a man’s love by doing more, giving more, paying more, cooking more, cleaning more — just hoping it’ll finally make him stay.
But here’s the truth: If a man is really connected to his masculine core, he wants to be the giver. Not because you’re weak. But because he finds purpose in being your hero.
You don’t have to do anything to deserve that. In fact, the more you try to “give” from your masculine energy, the more you rob him of the chance to be a man for you.
Let him give. It makes him feel alive. And it lets you be adored.
Why He’s Pulling Away Isn’t What You Think
Here’s a hard pill to swallow: Sometimes it’s not about you. Sometimes, it’s because he’s broken.
A powerful quote we shared said:
“Most men aren’t running away from a great woman. They’re running away from the parts of themselves they’re unwilling to fix in order to deserve her.”
Mic drop.
If he’s pulling away, not stepping up, not committing — it’s not always because you did something wrong. He may literally not be capable of being the man you need right now.
But here’s the twist…
You don’t wait. You don’t fix. You don’t give more to prove yourself. You go deeper into your feminine. You take the opposite approach.
When you’re in your feminine, one of two things will happen:
- He’ll rise into his masculine and give to you the way you’ve always desired.
- Or he’ll fall away — because he’s not the one.
And either way, you win.
What Men Really Want — That You’ve Been Taught To Fear
Let’s talk about what happens when you try to be “equal” in the relationship.
There’s this idea floating around that men and women should both be “balanced” in their masculine and feminine energy. That you should be a little of both — just like him. 50/50, fair and square.
But let me show you what that really looks like.
Imagine a man wearing half a tuxedo, half a wedding dress. That’s what this “balanced energy” looks like — confused, unattractive, and disconnected.
Do you want to be with a man like that?
No? Then why would he want to be with a woman who’s half in her masculine?
Opposites attract. That’s the law of polarity. The more you’re in your feminine, the more you draw in a man who is firmly rooted in his masculine. Who wants to give to you. Who wants to protect you. Who wants to serve you.
It’s not about being “less than.” It’s about being the complement to his strength. And he needs your softness. Just like you need his strength.
Stop Doing, Start Being: The Real Shift Into Feminine Energy
This part is important. If you’ve been in your masculine for years — maybe decades — it’s going to feel strange to let a man help you.
You might feel guilty. Like you owe him something.
You don’t.
If you’ve ever thought, “Well he paid for dinner, so I guess it’s my turn next time,” or “He helped me with that, so I need to do something for him,” — that’s your old programming talking.
You don’t need to match his giving with more doing. You give back by being.
You give back by being the woman he desires. Feminine. Open. Soft. Vulnerable. Trusting.
The moment you stop chasing, stop fixing, stop leading, and stop giving… you will start attracting.
Because now, he has space to show up.
And when a man shows up and gives to you without being forced — he’s not just giving to you. He’s becoming who he was always meant to be.
Get The Relationship Of Your Dreams
Here’s what I want you to remember above all else:
A man needs to give to you in order to feel like a man. And you need to receive from him in order to feel safe, desired, and deeply loved.
This is how your relationship transforms.
But first… you must stop giving to him from your masculine.
Let go of the old beliefs. Let go of the guilt. Let go of the fear that if you don’t “do enough,” he’ll leave.
Because the right man will only come closer when you finally let yourself receive.
Now, if you’re ready to take the next step and finally break through your old patterns, reconnect to your feminine core, and draw in a man who wants to give to you fully — then I invite you to take our FREE Magnetize Your Man Quiz.
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The truth is, most women never hear this. Most women never learn how to let a man give to them in the way he was created to. But you’re here now. And there’s so much more I want to show you…
Your King is waiting.
