If you’re sick of dating games, tired of giving your heart to men who won’t commit, and wondering what the hell you’re doing wrong — this might be the most important thing you’ll read this year.
Because the truth is, most women are doing at least one of these five things… usually without even knowing it. And it’s not just hurting your chances with men — it’s making them see you as the coach, the fixer, the friend, or even the mom… but not the woman they want to commit to.
I’m Brody Boyd, and together with my amazing wife Antia, we’ve helped thousands of smart, successful women all over the world attract a loving, long-term, and committed relationship with the right man — for over 20 years combined. We’ve spoken at places like Google, the Harvard University Faculty Club, and Good Morning San Diego — because what we teach works. Period.
So if you’re ready to stop pushing men away without even realizing it — and finally attract a man who pursues you, chooses you, and commits to you, for life…
Let’s get into the five things you should NEVER do for a man — no matter how much you like him.
1. Never Give Him Unsolicited Advice or Coaching
You’re smart. You’ve got your life together. You see potential in him.
So you think, “If he would just listen to me — update his resume, eat healthier, call his mom back — his whole life would get better!”
But here’s the truth: when you give a man advice he didn’t ask for, you’re not being helpful — you’re stepping into masculine energy.
And masculine energy in a dress is still masculine energy.
It’s like putting a tutu on a cowboy. Sure, he’s wearing it… but now everyone’s just confused.
In a relationship, polarity is everything. Masculine energy leads. Feminine energy responds. So when you start coaching him, suggesting things, or correcting him — you’ve become the leader in the relationship. You’ve become the coach. The mom. The manager.
And guess what? He didn’t sign up for that.
You’re like a dance partner grabbing his arms in the middle of a ballroom dance, telling him where to go. And what’s he gonna feel?
Criticized. Emasculated. Rejected.
I’ve coached thousands of women, and I see this all the time. You become his unpaid therapist, his life coach, his nutritionist, and his stylist all rolled into one.
But you’re not Home Depot, and he’s not your latest fixer-upper project.
One of our clients, Stephanie, was doing exactly that. She finally attracted a great guy, and what did she do? She started “helping” him. Sending job postings. Giving communication tips. Trying to fix him.
And he pulled away. Fast.
Because when a woman moves into masculine, a man either moves into feminine energy… or he leaves.
Instead, here’s the feminine way: you ask. Gently. Respectfully.
“Hey, would you like my thoughts on that?”
That tiny shift creates an invitation, not an instruction. It lets him stay in his masculine while you stay in your feminine.
So stop being his fixer. Start being his cheerleader. Be the woman, not the manager.
And remember this: a man doesn’t fall in love with someone who wants to fix him. He falls in love with someone who believes in him.
2. Never Stay Silent and Hope He’ll Just “Get It”
You’re craving attention. A little more love. A hug. A check-in. Something. Anything.
But you don’t ask. You don’t share. You just wait.
“If he really loved me, he’d know,” you think.
And when he doesn’t figure it out, you get hurt. Distant. Passive-aggressive. You start giving him the silent treatment while he’s sitting there thinking:
“Wait… is it her birthday? Did I leave the toilet seat up again?”
Here’s the deal: men are not mind readers. Most of us suck at reading between the lines.
You might be sitting there two feet away thinking, “I just wish he would hug me right now.”
And he’s over there thinking about… the Roman Empire.
Meanwhile, you’re trying to decode his emoji usage like it’s the Da Vinci Code, when really, he just hit the first yellow smiley he saw while eating a sandwich.
And here’s the punchline:
Even if he could figure it out… why would you rob him of the joy of making you happy?
Men love to win. We want to succeed with you. And when you ask for what you want — sweetly, vulnerably — you hand us the blueprint to your heart.
Christa, another one of our clients, got the flu early in her relationship. She didn’t want to burden him. She was ready to tough it out alone like the strong, independent woman she’d always been.
But instead, she remembered what we taught her. She texted:
“Would you mind coming over? I’m feeling really terrible and could use some company.”
And you know what he said? “I don’t care if I catch it. You’re worth it.”
He showed up, made her soup, and took care of her.
So here’s the truth: only a high-value woman feels safe asking for what she wants. Why?
Because she knows she deserves it.
If you believe deep down that you’re too much, too needy, or not worth it… you’ll stay silent.
But a queen doesn’t play hint-dropping Olympics. She just asks. Gently. Clearly. Like this:
“Hey, could we plan a date night this week? I’d really love some quality time.”
That’s not demanding. That’s radiant feminine communication. And the right man will love you for it.
3. Never Treat Him Like Your Girlfriend
This one is sneaky. And deadly to attraction.
You love talking. You love connecting. You love analyzing things for hours. So you treat him the way you treat your girlfriends.
But here’s the problem: he’s not your girlfriend.
And when you treat him like one, you’re asking him to step out of his masculine and into his feminine.
Back in the day, women gathered. They shared. They processed emotions.
Men? We hunted. We sat in silence. We solved problems.
So when you dump all your emotions on him for 3 hours, expecting him to mirror you like your bestie does — he might sit there nodding… but inside, he’s wondering if Die Hard is technically a Christmas movie.
Don’t get me wrong — your man cares about you. He wants to make you happy.
But he doesn’t want to be your girlfriend.
That’s what your girls are for.
So build your feminine energy network. Connect with women. Fill your cup. Then come to him as his woman, not his emotional processor-in-chief.
Let him stay in his masculine. Let him be your rock, your provider, your protector — not your nail polish consultant or reality TV breakdown analyst.
When you’re in your feminine, he feels like your man. And that creates passion. Polarity. Fire.
4. Never Overgive, Overdo, or Overfunction
You’re texting first. Driving to his place. Planning the dates. Buying him gifts. Supporting his dreams. Meanwhile, he’s sitting back… just receiving.
And you’re thinking, “But I’m just showing love! I’m generous! I’m caring!”
But here’s the reality: when you give more than you receive, you flip the polarity. Now you’re the one chasing. And he’s the one being chased.
You’ve become the sperm. But remember — you’re the egg.
The egg doesn’t chase. The egg attracts. The egg selects.
The sperm swims. It fights. It works for the right to be there.
When you do too much, you become his cruise director. His personal Uber. His therapist. His assistant. His mom.
And what happens?
- He stops trying.
- You start resenting.
- He starts taking you for granted.
It’s not because he’s a bad man — it’s because it’s human nature. If someone earns a million dollars, they value it. If someone gets handed a million dollars, they blow it.
When Antia and I were dating, she didn’t chase me. If she wanted to see me, she’d say, “I’d love to see you this weekend if you’re available.” That’s it.
She signaled. I responded. I planned.
That allowed me to be the man. I got to feel like her hero. That’s what men want.
So ask yourself this: are you giving him something to work for? Or are you giving him everything up front and hoping he values it?
Let him step up. Let him lead. If he doesn’t… now you know.
This one changes everything.
Most women think it’s their feelings that push a man away.
It’s not.
It’s how those feelings are expressed.
Complaining, criticizing, and nagging are masculine energy forms of control. They make a man feel like he’s being attacked. Like he’s taking a test he didn’t study for — in a language he doesn’t even speak.
“You never spend time with me anymore.”
“You’re so lazy.”
“Why do I have to ask you 17 times?”
Those kinds of phrases trigger defensiveness, shutdown, or passivity.
But when you share your feelings vulnerably… you flip a switch in his brain.
You activate the protector. The hero. The man.
Try this instead:
“Hey, can I share something with you? I’ve been feeling a little sad lately. I miss our time together. I know you’re busy — I just really love when we connect.”
That draws him in. It gives him an opportunity to win.
Vulnerability is not weakness. It’s power.
And it’s the ultimate compatibility test. If you share vulnerably and he responds with care — you’ve got something real.
If he ignores you, mocks you, or withdraws? You just got your answer.
So stop managing. Stop correcting. Stop trying to change him.
Start sharing. Start inviting. Start letting him rise to meet your heart.
Get The Relationship Of Your Dreams
If any of these 5 mistakes hit home — good. That means you’re ready to stop repeating them. And when you do?
You’ll stop chasing. You’ll stop fixing. You’ll stop settling.
And you’ll start magnetizing.
Because the woman who knows her worth… who speaks with confidence… who leads with her heart and lets a man step into his masculine — that’s the woman who gets claimed.
And if you want to know exactly what you need to do next, then take our FREE “Magnetize Your Man” Quiz and discover your personalized next step to attract the loving, committed relationship you desire with the man you want.
Click HERE to take the quiz now and step into your power.
But this is just the beginning.
There’s so much more to this… and if you feel it pulling you right now — follow that feeling.
Because something amazing is about to happen next.
