Are you feeling like your relationship is constantly facing roadblocks and challenges? Do you and your partner seem to be on different pages more often than not? These could be signs of an incompatible relationship. In this video, we will explore 12 common indicators of a relationship that may not be built to last.

1. Lack of Masculine/Feminine Polarity

In a relationship where the two partners are incompatible, it is likely that neither partner is expressing their true masculine or feminine energy. This can cause a lack of balance, attraction and passion in the relationship

Psychologically, this lack of masculine and feminine energy can create a feeling of being disconnected from one another. This can manifest in the way partners interact, with each partner feeling like they have to take on both roles in order to make the relationship work.

3 Other Examples Of What This Could Look Like Are:

1. You find yourself trying to control the relationship even though you want to be in your feminine.
2. You feel that your partner is being too passive and not moving things forward.
3. You start to feel more like roommates than lovers.

2. No Shared Vision For The Future

When two people don't have a mutual view of the future, it can lead to disagreements and difficulties in the relationship. Without a shared vision, it's hard for partners to stay connected and supportive of one another.

Psychologically, when two people don't have the same vision for the future, it can lead to feelings of insecurity and mistrust. One partner may feel that the other is not committed to the relationship, or that their individual goals are not being taken into consideration.

3 Other Examples Of What This Could Look Like Are:

1. One partner wanting to have children while the other does not.
2. One partner wanting to stay in their current city while the other wants to move away.
3. One partner wanting to get married while the other wants to keep the relationship casual.

3. Lack Of Mutual Respect

Mutual respect is essential for any healthy relationship. When one partner does not respect the other, it can lead to a breakdown of communication, feelings of resentment, and an overall lack of connection. Without mutual respect, there is no foundation for a successful relationship.

Psychologically, respect is a sign of acceptance and value. When someone feels respected, they are more likely to open up, be vulnerable, and trust their partner. A lack of mutual respect can lead to a lack of communication, leading to a disconnection between the two.

3 Other Examples Of What This Could Look Like Are:

1. Insulting or belittling your partner in public or private
2. Not listening to or considering your partner's opinion or feelings
3. Making decisions without consulting your partner

4. Constant Conflict

Constant conflict is a sign that two people are not compatible. It is a pattern of negative interactions between partners that both have difficulty resolving. This can be a sign that the two people involved have fundamental differences that cannot be reconciled.

Psychologically, this can be a sign that the two partners are not able to properly understand and validate one another’s feelings. These negative interactions can lead to a feeling of insecurity and disconnection, making it difficult for the relationship to move forward.

3 Other Examples Of What This Could Look Like Are:

1. Arguing and bickering over small things.
2. Never being able to agree on important decisions.
3. One person always feeling like they are being attacked by the other.

5. Lack Of Trust

Trust is essential for a relationship to thrive. Without it, your partner may feel betrayed and isolated, and the relationship can become more and more strained. Trust involves being honest and open with each other, as well as giving each other the freedom to make their own decisions.

Psychologically, having a lack of trust can lead to feelings of insecurity and lack of safety, causing a partner to constantly doubt themselves and their partner, leading to more arguments and distance in the relationship.

3 Other Examples Of What This Could Look Like Are:

1. Not respecting each other's privacy by snooping through each other's texts or emails.
2. Not being honest with each other about important issues or feelings.
3. Not feeling comfortable expressing your thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or criticism.

6. Differing Social Needs

When you have different social needs from your partner, you can end up feeling like you're constantly in conflict. For example, one of you may need more social interaction while the other may need more alone time. This can be difficult to navigate when neither of you are willing to compromise. If one of you needs more social interaction than the other, it can be easy to start feeling frustrated and held back.

3 Other Examples Of What This Could Look Like Are:

1. You want to go out to dinner with friends regularly while your partner prefers to stay in.
2. You want to socialize with new people while your partner prefers to stay in the same social circles.
3. You prefer to go to parties while your partner prefers to stay home.

7. Lack Of Shared Interests

When two people have nothing in common, they have nothing to talk about and no shared activities. This can lead to boredom and a lack of connection. It can also lead to feelings of being misunderstood, as the other person may not understand your interests or hobbies.

Psychologically, shared interests can be a way to build a shared identity and a sense of closeness. When you have common interests, you can identify with each other and share experiences.

3 Other Examples Of What This Could Look Like Are:

1. One partner loves to travel and explore new corners of the world, while the other is content to stay home and relax.
2. One partner loves to cook and try new recipes, while the other is happy to order take-out.
3. One partner loves to read and discuss books, while the other has no interest in reading.

8. Different Views On Monogamy

Monogamy means different things to different people. When you and your partner have different views on monogamy, you may have difficulty creating a lasting relationship. One person may want a much more open relationship than the other, or one person may not prioritize exclusivity, while the other may want to be exclusive to one partner.

Psychologically, two people having different views on monogamy can lead to resentment, frustration, and even jealousy.

3 Other Examples Of What This Could Look Like Are:

1. One person wanting to be in an open or “friends with benefits” relationship and the other wanting to be in a committed relationship.
2. One person wanting to have multiple partners and the other wanting to have one.
3. One person seeing things as long term, the other person as just short term.

9. Differing Spiritual or Religious Beliefs

When two people come from different spiritual or religious backgrounds, it can create a divide that's hard to bridge. The values, beliefs, and traditions that come with each person's faith can be too different to reconcile with one another. It can create an environment of doubt, mistrust, and judgment that is hard to overcome.

On a psychological level, this incompatibility can be very difficult to manage. It can lead to feelings of guilt, shame, and resentment, making it almost impossible for both people to feel secure and supported in the relationship.

3 Other Examples Of What This Could Look Like Are:

1. One person is an atheist while the other is a devout Christian.
2. One person is a Buddhist while the other is a Muslim.
3. One person is a spiritual seeker while the other is an agnostic.

10. Lack of Personal Growth

When two people are in an incompatible relationship, they don't push each other to grow or become better versions of themselves. They are comfortable with each other as is and don't challenge each other to improve. This can lead to stagnation and can prevent the relationship from deepening.

Psychologically, this can be a sign that one or both partners are afraid to confront their own issues, or that they're not interested in growing. They may be content to stay in their comfort zone and avoid personal growth.

3 Other Examples Of What This Could Look Like Are:

1. One partner not wanting to try new things or take risks
2. Avoiding difficult conversations that could lead to personal growth
3. Not encouraging each other to pursue passions or develop new skills.

11. Avoiding Difficult Conversations

When a relationship becomes strained, one of the most important things to do is to address issues before they become worse. Avoiding difficult conversations doesn’t allow for the issues to be resolved, and can lead to resentment and bitterness building up. It can also create distance and lack of understanding between the two people involved.

Psychologically, it can create a sense of insecurity and fear that the other person will not accept the truth or can lead to feelings of guilt and shame.

3 Other Examples Of What This Could Look Like Are:

1. Ignoring each other when an issue arises instead of talking it out.
2. Refusing to talk about serious topics or pretending they don’t exist.
3. Making excuses not to talk about difficult topics and avoiding confrontation.

12. Lack Of Physical Affection

Physical affection, in the form of touch and closeness, is a fundamental element of a thriving relationship. Without this form of connection, partners may find it challenging to establish a deep bond, leading to a gradual emotional distance. Absence of physical affection can give rise to feelings of abandonment, solitude, and bitterness. This can further hamper open communication, creating hurdles for both individuals to convey their emotions and desires.

3 Other Examples Of What This Could Look Like Are:

1. Hesitating to indulge in acts like cuddling, holding hands, or sharing a kiss.
2. Not being physically or sexually attracted to the other person.
3. Avoiding conversations about physical closeness or demonstrating a distaste for it.

Understanding the signs of an incompatible relationship can save you from unnecessary heartache and wasted time. Remember, compatibility is not just about having similar interests or beliefs, but also about the ability to communicate effectively and support each other's growth. Be honest with yourself and your partner, and don't be afraid to walk away if the signs are telling you it's not the right fit.

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Antia & Brody Boyd
Antia & Brody Boyd

Husband and wife team Antia & Brody Boyd have been helping thousands of successful women all over the world for over 20 years combine to get a loving, long-term & committed relationship with a high-quality man fast without loneliness, frustration or rejection. They've also been featured expert speakers at Google, the Harvard University Faculty Club, ABC Radio & Good Morning San Diego.

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