Are you constantly fretting over whether you're saying the right things, doing enough, or if you're even lovable as you are? In this guide, we'll unlock proven strategies and mindset shifts, empowering you to capture his undivided attention, nurture a deep, passionate connection, and step into the love story you've always dreamed of, all while leaving your relationship anxieties in the dust.

We're Antia & Brody Boyd with Magnetize Your Man and after helping thousands of successful women all over the world to get a loving, long-term & committed relationship with a man they want for over 20 years combined, here's what we've seen…

#1 – Use The Perspective Hack

Are you finding yourself, like so many of my clients, in constant places of anxiety, especially in moments when you may have sent a man a text message and you haven't heard back from him? You're in some way, shape, or form in the unknown, in the uncertainty, and there's a lot of tension, a lot of heat inside of yourself, and you just don't know how to get out of that spiral.

Here's a secret I've discovered: the Perspective Hack. What this really means is recognizing that not all of you is feeling anxious right now; it's just a part of you. By acknowledging that it's a part of you that feels anxious, you immediately gain perspective. You're no longer completely helpless and powerless, letting this part run you over. Instead, you're saying, “Hold on one second, if it's a part of me that feels anxious, what is that part, and what other part can I access right now to help that anxious part?”

This technique is called Parts Work. Once you start practicing this, you'll find the anxiety begins to diminish, and you start to feel more safe, more grounded. This is a powerful first step in reclaiming your romantic life from the clutches of anxiety.

#2 – Visualize A Cool Color

Anxiety is like a fire inside, heating up your body and scrambling your thoughts, especially in love where the stakes feel so high. When you're waiting for a text back, or you're just stepping into the unknown of a new relationship, that heat can feel unbearable. But here's a surprisingly effective strategy I've used, both personally and with countless clients: Visualize a cool color.

It might sound too simple at first, but anxiety is essentially a hot emotion. It races upward through your body, speeding up your heart rate and making you feel as though you're burning up from the inside. Now, when you consciously choose to visualize a cool color—a deep ocean blue or a soothing shade of turquoise, you send a signal to your nervous system that it's time to slow down, to cool off.

This act of visualizing coolness can actually help ground your body, quiet your mind, and bring you back to a state of calm. It's a method that engages your nervous system in a direct conversation, telling it, “It's okay, we're safe, we can cool down.”

And as you practice, you might find this simple tool to be profoundly effective at breaking the cycle of anxiety, helping you to feel more present, more in control, and ultimately, more open to love.

#3 – Breathe Downward

When anxiety sweeps through you like a storm, disrupting your peace and hindering your ability to connect deeply in relationships, it's time to turn to something fundamental yet profoundly powerful: your breath. Specifically, the practice of breathing downward.

Anxiety triggers a fight or flight response, constraining our breathing, tightening our muscles, and preparing us for battle. This state is the antithesis of safety and calmness, characteristics essential for fostering love and connection. By simply directing your breath downwards, deep into your belly, you send a potent signal to your nervous system that you are, in fact, safe.

This act shifts you away from the hyper-aroused state of your sympathetic nervous system, associated with anxiety, and nudges you towards your parasympathetic nervous system, the state in which your body feels calm, grounded, and secure.

This is not just physiological jargon; it's a practical tool that, by leveraging the innate wisdom of your body, helps you reclaim a sense of peace and safety. From this place, you're better prepared to engage in your relationships with confidence and openness.

#4 – Write Down Trust 100 Times

During one of the most challenging periods of uncertainty in my relationship, when anxiety threatened to overwhelm me, I discovered a simple yet transformative tool: writing down “I trust” 100 times. This practice may seem simplistic at first glance, but its effects are deeply profound.

Years ago, when I was caught in a whirlwind of worry because a man hadn't responded to me, this method became my anchor. I scribbled “I trust” over and over, not because I planned to from the start, but because that's what it took for the message to deeply penetrate my thoughts and soothe my nervous system.

The repetition acted as a counterbalance to the relentless pace of anxious thoughts bombarding me, eventually calming the storm within. This act of writing, or even speaking “I trust” aloud if writing isn't feasible, serves as a powerful declaration to ourselves. It shifts our focus from fear and uncertainty to a state of trust and openness, laying the foundation for a more secure, calm, and confident engagement with our love life.

#5 – Use the I Am Safe Method

In the whirlwind of disorder and discomfort that anxiety brings, especially when tethered to matters of the heart, I unearthed a profoundly simple yet powerful antidote: the “I Am Safe” method. Several years back, amidst the throes of anxious attachment, I recognized a relentless pattern – I didn't feel safe.

This realization struck me deeply; our attachment styles, the very blueprint of how we love and connect, are intrinsically wired around our sense of safety and trust. From this epiphany, the “I Am Safe” method was born. By consciously affirming “I am safe,” I could instantly signal to my entire being a return to equilibrium, to a sanctuary away from the grip of anxiety.

Whether it meant repeating these words like a mantra, breathing them in with every inhale, or visualizing myself enveloped in a scenario of security, this practice offered a direct line to re calibrating my nervous system. This wasn't just about warding off temporary unease; it was about rewiring my response to love and connection, ensuring that even in the face of uncertainty, I could find my way back to peace and presence.

Final Thoughts

In conclusion, navigating the tumultuous waters of anxiety doesn't mean you're destined to be shipwrecked in your love life. By embracing tools like the Perspective Hack, Visualizing Cool Colors, Breathing Downward, Writing Down Trust, and the I Am Safe Method, you're equipping yourself with a powerful arsenal against the storm.

Remember, it's about reaching your unconscious mind, where anxiety lurks, and transforming it with intentional, positive action. As you practice these strategies, you're not only calming your nerves but also paving the way for a committed, connected, and fulfilling relationship.

Dive into these practices, trust the process, and watch as you attract the love you truly desire and deserve. Let me know how these strategies work for you; I'm excited to hear about your journey towards love without anxiety.

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Antia & Brody Boyd
Antia & Brody Boyd

Husband and wife team Antia & Brody Boyd have been helping thousands of successful women all over the world for over 20 years combine to get a loving, long-term & committed relationship with a high-quality man fast without loneliness, frustration or rejection. They've also been featured expert speakers at Google, the Harvard University Faculty Club, ABC Radio & Good Morning San Diego.

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