Have you ever found yourself constantly fighting for your partner's attention, only to end up feeling frustrated and unfulfilled? In this article, we reveal a powerful alternative to this exhausting cycle, so that you can experience true love and connection without the pain and struggle. Get ready to transform your relationship and finally get what you truly desire in your love life.

We're Antia & Brody Boyd with Magnetize Your Man and after helping thousands of successful women all over the world to get a loving, long-term & committed relationship with a man they want for over 20 years combined, here's what we've seen…

#1 – Switch From Receiving to Giving or Giving to Receiving

Instead of constantly fighting for his attention, it's important to shift the dynamic from giving to receiving or receiving to giving in the relationship. This means either letting go of constantly initiating and doing things for him, or stepping up and meeting all of his needs if you find yourself always receiving in the relationship.

This 90-day challenge of meeting his needs and seeing if he reciprocates can help you determine if he is the right fit for you. By changing the balance of giving and receiving, you can create a healthier and more equal relationship.

#2 – Question Your Beliefs

Do you find yourself constantly comparing your relationship to others or holding it to certain expectations? It's important to question your beliefs about the relationship, yourself, and your partner. Are these beliefs based on societal norms or expectations from past relationships? Are they truly important to you or are you just trying to fit into a certain mold?

By questioning and letting go of these beliefs, you can focus on your own desires and create a relationship that truly aligns with your values. It's also important to question if you are showing up as your best self in the relationship and if your partner is the right fit for you. Remember, the only person you should be comparing yourself to is who you were last year, and focus on raising your own internal standards instead of comparing yourself to others.

#3 – Use Open Dialog

Communication is key in any relationship, and this is especially true when it comes to getting a man's attention. Instead of fighting for his attention, try using open dialogue to get on the same page with your man. This involves asking three powerful questions: how do you feel, why do you feel that way, and what do you want.

By listening non-judgmentally and sharing these same questions with him, you can work together to find a solution that meets both of your needs. This shift towards open communication can bring you closer and create a stronger and more fulfilling relationship.

#4 – Know When to Let Go

It can be difficult to let go of a relationship, especially when we have invested time and energy into it. However, sometimes the best thing we can do is to let go and move on. This can be especially true when it comes to fighting for a man's attention. If we find ourselves constantly trying to change him or control the situation, it may be a sign that it is time to let go.

By practicing the Serenity Prayer and focusing on what we can control, we can let go of the need to fight for his attention and trust that things will work out for the best, whether that means the relationship continues or ends. Remember, you deserve to be with someone who is willing to give you the attention and love you deserve without constant struggle.

#5 – Say No More Often

In order to attract a man's attention, it's important to establish and maintain healthy boundaries. This means learning to say no more often. Many women feel pressured to say yes to everything their partner wants or needs, but this can lead to resentment and a lack of self-care. Saying no is a complete sentence and you don't have to justify your boundaries.

Practice saying no in front of the mirror, with family and friends, and in your romantic relationship. By setting boundaries, you are showing that you value yourself and your needs, and this will ultimately attract the right man who respects and values you.

#6 – Invest in Your Alone Time

It's important to carve out time in your schedule for alone time. This means doing things you enjoy, having hobbies and separate activities from your partner or relationship. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but it's necessary in order to give your partner the space they need to come to you.

Constantly being around them or messaging them can make them feel pressured and suffocated. By investing in your alone time, you are also investing in yourself and allowing your partner the opportunity to be the initiator in the relationship. It takes courage to give this discomfort to yourself and the relationship, but it can bring comfort in the long run. Trust that by giving your partner space, they will come to you and the relationship will thrive.

#7 – Invest in Your Alone Time

It may seem counterintuitive, but investing in your alone time is crucial to attracting the right man and getting his attention. This means carving out time in your weekly and daily schedule to do things that bring you joy and fulfillment, whether it's going for a walk in nature, pursuing a hobby, or simply spending time alone. By giving yourself space and time to focus on yourself and your own growth, you are creating the space for the right man to come into your life.

Furthermore, constantly being around your man or constantly messaging him can actually suffocate him and prevent him from being able to come to you and initiate in the relationship. By investing in your alone time, you are also giving him the space he needs to step up and be the initiator. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but trust that this discomfort will lead to growth and ultimately attract the right man to you. Remember, you are the flame, not the moth.

#8 – Avoid Destructive Strategies

Instead of fighting for his attention, it's important to avoid destructive strategies that may seem tempting in the moment. These strategies, such as manipulation, guilt, or passive aggressiveness, may give you temporary results, but they can also damage the relationship in the long run.

Instead, focus on open and honest communication, setting boundaries, and investing in your own personal growth. This will not only benefit the relationship, but also help you become a stronger and more confident individual. Remember, trust and vulnerability are key components of a healthy and loving relationship.

#9 – Invest in Your Alone Time

Investing in your alone time is crucial for a healthy relationship. It allows you to have space and time for yourself, separate from your partner. This gives you the opportunity to focus on your own hobbies, interests, and personal growth. By having this time for yourself, you are also giving your partner the space they may need to come to you.

Constantly relying on your partner for all of your needs can create pressure and suffocate the relationship. So make sure to carve out alone time in your schedule and use it to do things that you enjoy and that make you a better version of yourself. This may feel uncomfortable at first, but it can ultimately bring comfort and allow your partner to come to you. Remember, you are the flame, not the moth.

#10 – Seek Discomfort in Growth

One of the most effective ways to stop fighting for a man's attention is to seek discomfort in growth. This means stepping out of your comfort zone and doing things that may be scary or challenging, but will ultimately help you become your best self. It could be starting a new business venture, having tough conversations, or trying new activities. By constantly seeking growth and improvement, you will become a flame that attracts the right man to you, rather than a moth chasing after him.

Trust in the process and have faith that by working on yourself, you will naturally draw the right man back to you. And if he doesn't step up, it's a clear sign that he was not the right man for you and you deserve someone better. Don't be afraid to step into the unknown and embrace discomfort for the sake of your personal growth and the success of your relationships.

Final Thoughts

In conclusion, fighting for a man's attention is not the solution to a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Instead, focus on building your own self-confidence and prioritize your own happiness. Trust that the right person will give you the attention and love you deserve without any effort or struggle. Remember to always put yourself first and never settle for less than you deserve. Moving forward, I challenge you to redirect that energy towards self-love and self-care, and watch as your relationships flourish organically.

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Antia & Brody Boyd
Antia & Brody Boyd

Husband and wife team Antia & Brody Boyd have been helping thousands of successful women all over the world for over 20 years combine to get a loving, long-term & committed relationship with a high-quality man fast without loneliness, frustration or rejection. They've also been featured expert speakers at Google, the Harvard University Faculty Club, ABC Radio & Good Morning San Diego.

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