Discover why men lose interest and why guys lose interest AFTER the chase in this new article! Knowing why he lost interest can often be challenging, but once you understand all the different ways why guys lose interest you can then AVOID them and have him chase you once again. Enjoy! đ„°

1. Ending The Call Last
Now, this is a favorite of mine because it reminds me of the time when I was giving all my power away, and what that looked like for me. I was spending every free minute I could on the phone with the guy I dated or I was interested in; it would be a race to see which battery ran out first â if it was my iPhone battery, I would get the home phone (back then we even had home phones, so Iâm dating myself a little bit) but I never wanted to hang up first. However, in never being the last to hang up I was massively taken advantage of, I was not respecting myself, I wasnât even getting enough sleep or properly taking care of myself! I was not coming back into my own energy versus being caught up in the other personâs energy.
Also, when you donât end the call first, youâre giving your power away because youâre saying, âI donât feel comfortable âin my own world,ââ Like the phone conversation Iâm having right now has way more benefits than my own world. Youâre already off to the wrong horse race, so to say, when youâre in that camp, because if youâre already coming from a place of scarcity, and not abundance because there is sadness, disappointment and loneliness, then you canât fully and authentically feel youâre empowerment. Youâll always have to use the man to give you his power.

2. Not Reinforcing Your âNoâ
You have heard many times that itâs all about really setting the boundaries and being clear on them, but what I want to talk about today is not reinforcing the boundary. So you may say, âyes, sorry, no,â or you may not be ready to progress to the next level of intimacy with them, but then you canât hold that boundary. Youâre saying it externally but itâs not supported internally through your nervous system, through your visceral system, you donât have the stamina because it doesnât match your belief.
After all, your belief may be that if you say no, then heâs going to leave, or if you say no, then heâs going to abandon you. So instead, when he questions it, âAre you sure, are you sure itâs not a yes.â Then you are being influenced by his agenda and lose all the focus that you have on yourself, you lose all the self-conviction you had, the self-assertion, and you give all your power away. This and more we talk about all the time on my calls that you can potentially sign up for after taking my free Magnetize Your Man Quiz below!

3. Focusing Only On Him
I see this all the time, a woman goes on a date, and she just focuses on him, makes sure that he has a good time, makes sure that she says the right thing, that she doesnât interrupt him and so on. She also makes sure that she asks him a lot of questions so that he doesnât ask her a lot of questions, right, because it doesnât feel comfortable to have the attention on you. Now, of course, what happens is when you focus on him the whole time, he will either think that thereâs not much to you or itâs superficial, or he feels he has to carry the whole conversation because youâre not sharing anything. So it comes off a little bit guarded, youâre protecting yourself, and youâre holding back or potentially even hiding something.
You also donât take breaths when you focus on him because youâre out of your body, you donât feel your feet firmly rooted on the ground, and this is something thatâs pretty important to know. This is how you give a lot of power away and when he feels like, âOh, sheâs already celebrating me, I donât even have to do anything.â or âItâs great, I just go the path of least resistance. I donât have to invest much into this relationship,â and those are the women that come to me all the time that donât feel honored, that donât feel respected. Theyâre not hearing back from the man, the man doesnât honor his word after, the actions donât follow the words, and so on.

4. Initiating Contact
How a relationship starts, thatâs how it continues. So, unless you want your relationship to be constantly about you having to reach out, and you having to take the first step, and you never in a million years feeling cherished or supported, or pursued. Like youâre flourishing, blossoming, this flower when youâre being pursued, which is just natural. You have already given all your power away. Man, the research shows that men are first when you initiate contact, however, 24 hours later, they will lose that attraction towards you, and they wonder why.
Now part of the reason is that the man to approach you, has to work through something because he could get rejected, he has to overcome his anxiety. You guys, this is a thing. I learned this when I married my husband because he was working with men for 10 years, so I learned about approach anxiety. So for them to overcome their anxiety, they need a tremendous amount of momentum and conviction and also spirit. Like the masculine spirit inside of themselves to overcome that. Thatâs why itâs so important to allow them to initiate because what happens is it creates momentum.
That momentum means he continues to pursue you, because of course, now heâs risked so much, now heâs going to also want to reap the rewards, of course, heâs not just going to ask you out once and then heâs going to go home. If it took so much to overcome that anxiety for him, then, of course, heâs going to continue pursuing you and heâs not going to take the relationship for granted. We talk a lot about that in my free Magnetize Your Man Dating Support Facebook Group, so click the button below to join!
5. Laughing When Itâs Not Funny
What happens here is when you laugh when itâs not funny is youâre feeling an emotion, you feel sadness, and then you laugh. So youâre handing a man an emotional presumption that itâs not safe to be with you emotionally because you are negating your own emotions. You also tremendously confuse this man as well because he may start thinking, âOh my gosh, maybe I did something wrong,â so that can make him not going to reach out to you again. Heâs not going to reach out to you again because heâs not going to trust you and he canât fully feel you.
When you laugh when itâs not funny like when youâre angry or frustrated or when thereâs something that you talked about that brings up a lot of sadness or grief, he feels that a little bit in his system, but it doesnât get confirmed through your body, through your emotions, right, thereâs going to be a disconnect. Youâre sending mixed signals and that leads to distrust, and then of course, also tells him not to pursue this woman any further.
Why Do Men Lose Interest Conclusion
So Iâd love to hear from you, comment below, what key helped you the most, and why, and of course, which ones are you ready to finally let go of? I look forward to reading your answers!
