In the world of dating and relationships, finding the man of your dreams can sometimes feel like a challenge. But what if there was a way to draw him to you without all the loneliness, frustration, or fear of rejection? Brody and Antia Boyd from Magnetize Your Man, experts who have been helping successful women achieve their relationship goals for over 20 years. In their training on Detachment, they reveal powerful secrets that can help you find love and create a loving, long-term relationship. Let's dive into the first two points:
1 – Let Go Of The Outcome
When it comes to dating or being in romantic situations, one key secret is letting go of the outcome. This means releasing any attachment to what may happen as a result of your actions or interactions with a man. It involves not caring whether he calls back, asks you on another date, or even proposes marriage.
By relinquishing control over the future anticipation of specific outcomes in your mind, you become more present in the moment. Surprisingly enough, this detachment actually creates intrigue within men. They sense that you are not desperate for their attention or validation; instead, they become more curious about who you truly are.
2 – Commit To The Process
Once you have let go of any expectations regarding outcomes with men in dating scenarios or relationships altogether – where do all those energy spent worrying about these things go? Well here’s another secret: commit them to improving yourself and embracing personal growth.
Instead of fixating on whether he likes you back or planning out every move during dates obsessively – invest that energy into becoming the best version of yourself possible. Focus on self-improvement across various areas such as communication skills and overall self-growth.
This commitment redirects your focus away from clinging onto desired outcomes towards embodying qualities which attract quality partners naturally (without feeling anxious). By detaching yourself emotionally when investing effort into refining yourself – Wayne Dyer’s words ring true: “Commit to the process, and detach from the outcome.”
These secrets may seem counterintuitive at first glance, but they hold immense power. Letting go of specific outcomes allows you to be fully present and intriguing in romantic situations. By committing to your personal growth instead of fixating on how a man perceives or responds to you, you become magnetic and draw him towards you.
3 – Have Fun
When it comes to dating and relationships, many of us can get caught up in our own heads, constantly thinking about what we should say or how the other person perceives us. But what if instead of worrying so much, we simply focused on having fun?
Having fun not only allows us to enjoy the process of getting to know someone but also has a powerful impact on those around us. When we're genuinely having a good time, it activates mirror neurons in others' brains, making them feel joy, happiness, and relaxation too.
By embracing the principle of having fun during dates and interactions with potential partners, we become more magnetic. We exude confidence and authenticity while being less anxious about the outcome. So let loose and enjoy yourself – you might just find that it draws others closer to you.
4 – Love Yourself First
If you want to attract love from someone else, start by creating that love within yourself. Building a strong relationship with yourself means taking care of your emotional needs and nurturing self-love.
When you focus on loving yourself first and foremost, your craving for validation from others diminishes significantly. Instead of desperately seeking affection or attention from someone else, you are already fulfilling these needs within yourself.
By prioritizing self-love, you become more confident and less needy in relationships. This sense of inner fulfillment becomes attractive to others because they sense that they don't need to be responsible for completing or fixing you; instead they see a whole person who is ready for a healthy connection.
5 – Put Away The Umbilical Cord
In our pursuit of love and companionship, it's easy to fall into the habit of relying on someone else emotionally – like plugging an umbilical cord into another person in hopes that they will fulfill our needs.
However, this kind of emotional dependency often leads to clinginess or neediness that repels potential partners rather than attracting them closer. Instead, we need to turn the focus inward and plug that umbilical cord back into ourselves.
By prioritizing self-care and meeting our own emotional needs, we create a sense of security within us. Other people feel more comfortable around us because they don't have the pressure of being solely responsible for our happiness or well-being.
Putting away the emotional umbilical cord allows us to develop a healthy sense of autonomy and ensures that we are complete individuals seeking connection rather than relying on someone else to fill any emotional voids.
6 – Positive Self-Talk
Boost your confidence and attract the love you desire by practicing positive self-talk. Remind yourself that you are amazing, incredible, and deserving of a loving relationship. By focusing on your own worth and embracing self-love, you will naturally become less needy and clingy in relationships.
7 – Just Show Up
The key to success is simply showing up. Whether it's attending a social event or going out on a date, let go of expectations and focus on being present in the moment. By detaching from the outcome, you can exude confidence and magnetism that will draw others towards you.
8 – There Is More Than Enough
Reframe your mindset from scarcity to abundance when it comes to love. Instead of fixating on one person as the perfect match, embrace the idea that there are plenty of amazing quality men available for everyone. Cultivate an abundance mentality and trust that love, connection, and opportunities are abundant in your life.
Embrace these powerful principles of detachment to manifest the happy, fulfilling relationship you desire without loneliness or frustration.
9 – Let It All Go
One of the secrets to detaching and attracting the man you want is learning to let go. When we become too attached to outcomes, whether it's waiting for a phone call or hoping for a proposal, we create unnecessary anxiety and tension in our relationships. By letting go of expectations and embracing the present moment, we free ourselves from this emotional burden.
Detachment means releasing our attachment to specific outcomes. We stop obsessing over every action or gesture from our partner that may indicate their level of interest or commitment. Instead, we focus on being fully present in each interaction without placing expectation on what comes next.
In the paradoxical world of dating and relationships, when we release our neediness and desperation for certain outcomes, men are often more attracted to us. Our detachment creates an air of mystery and intrigue that draws them closer instead of pushing them away.
10 – Become The Bachelorette
Creating situations where you can be desired by multiple quality suitors is key to detaching from just one person's attention. This concept is inspired by popular reality TV shows like “The Bachelorette” where a single woman is pursued by numerous interested men vying for her affections.
By creating your own social sphere filled with multiple potential partners interested in getting to know you better, you enhance your desirability factor. Surround yourself with people who appreciate your worth and value as an individual rather than fixating solely on one person's attention.
Being “The Bachelorette” allows you to explore different options without feeling tied down to one particular relationship. You gain social proof – other people see others pursuing you – which can boost your self-confidence while keeping romantic possibilities open.
Detachment plays a vital role in attracting the man you want. By letting go of anticipated outcomes and embracing self-love, fun, positive self-talk and an abundant mindset, you become magnetic to potential partners. Add in practicing presence and being pursued rather than pursuing, and you create an environment where healthy relationships can flourish naturally.
Take these secrets of detachment to heart as you navigate your dating journey. Embrace yourself fully first, release attachment to specific outcomes, expand your social circle with quality suitors who recognize your value – be “The Bachelorette” of your own life – and watch love flow into your world effortlessly.
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