Do you ever feel like something is off in your relationship? Does it seem like the man you’re with isn’t stepping up, isn’t committing, or isn’t showing you the love and adoration you deeply desire? If so, you may be dealing with a broken man. And if he is a broken man, your approach to the relationship has to be different — because staying in a relationship with a man who can’t love you properly will only leave you heartbroken and exhausted.

For over 20 years combined, my wife Antia and I have helped thousands of successful women worldwide create the loving, long-term, and committed relationships they deserve. We’ve spoken at Google, Harvard University Faculty Club, and Good Morning San Diego, sharing the secrets of understanding men on a deeper level — how they think, how they feel, and what they truly want in a relationship.

So let’s dive into the eight signs you’re dealing with a broken man and what that means for your relationship moving forward.

Sign #8: He Doesn’t Show Care for Your Heart

The number one thing to look for in a man is simple: Is he showing care for your heart? If the answer is no, then that’s all you need to know. A healthy man values your emotions. He listens when you express yourself. He makes an effort to protect your heart. A broken man, on the other hand, either doesn’t care or is incapable of showing care. And that means your relationship will always feel one-sided, where you’re giving and hoping, while he remains distant and unresponsive.

You don’t need to analyze him, psychoanalyze his past, or make excuses for him. Just ask yourself: If my relationship stayed exactly the way it is today for the rest of my life, would I be happy? If the answer is no, it’s time to stop waiting for change that may never come.

Sign #7: He Makes Everything About Himself & Dismisses Your Emotions

Have you ever shared your feelings with a man, only for him to brush them off or turn the conversation back to himself? Maybe you told him you were upset about something, and instead of offering comfort, he made it about how tough his day was or how you’re “overreacting.”

A broken man struggles with empathy. He can’t hold space for your emotions because he’s too absorbed in his own world. Even if you use powerful communication techniques (like we teach in Magnetic Feminine Communication), if he’s always dismissing or disregarding your emotions, he is not capable of being a healthy partner.

Sign #6: He Wants You to Give to Him & Doesn’t Reciprocate

A healthy masculine man naturally wants to give to you. He wants to provide, protect, and make you happy. But a broken man? He reverses that polarity. Instead of stepping up, he expects you to give. He wants you to be the one making plans, initiating conversations, and emotionally supporting him. In essence, he’s looking for a mother, not a partner.

And here’s the worst part — if you keep giving and giving, he will lose respect for you. Your attraction will fade, and eventually, he’ll discard you when he no longer needs your support. The best way to break this cycle? Say no to mothering and start receiving like a true high-value woman.

Sign #5: He Is Abusive (Physically, Verbally, or Emotionally)

This one should be obvious, but many women stay in abusive relationships by making excuses for their partner’s behavior. Whether he had a tough childhood, struggles with stress, or “doesn’t mean it,” abuse is never acceptable.

If he physically harms you, calls you degrading names, or manipulates you through mind games and gaslighting — he is a broken man. And the longer you stay, the harder it will be to leave. Remember: Healthy love does not include pain, fear, or humiliation.

Sign #4: He Has Addictive Tendencies

A man who struggles with addiction — whether it’s alcohol, drugs, gambling, or even porn — is not in control of his own emotions. Addiction is a sign of deep emotional wounds and a lack of masculine discipline. And if he can’t regulate himself, how will he ever hold space for your emotions and needs?

You cannot fix an addict. You cannot love him into healing. Only he can decide to change. And if he doesn’t, you will be dragged into his downward spiral.

Sign #3: He Shows No Remorse for His Actions

If a man hurts you — whether emotionally or otherwise — and doesn’t acknowledge it, apologize, or make an effort to change, then he is either broken or he simply doesn’t care about you. Both are deal-breakers.

A good man will take responsibility for his actions. He’ll say, “I’m sorry,” and mean it. He’ll show remorse not just with words but through changed behavior. If your man never does this, he is not capable of the relationship you deserve.

Sign #2: He Doesn’t Want to Lead or Move the Relationship Forward

A healthy masculine man takes initiative. He makes plans. He pursues commitment. He takes responsibility for his role in the relationship. But a broken man? He avoids all of this.

If he drags his feet about committing, avoids serious conversations, or expects you to lead, you are dealing with a man who is disconnected from his masculinity. And that means your relationship will never have the strength and stability you need to feel safe and cherished.

Sign #1: He Is Constantly Sad, Anxious, or Depressed

A man who is deeply in his emotions all the time — whether it’s sadness, anxiety, or depression — is stuck in his feminine energy. Masculine energy is about doing, while feminine energy is about being. A healthy man will regulate his emotions and take action to solve his problems. A broken man will wallow in them and expect you to carry the emotional load for him.

If he constantly complains, expresses hopelessness, or leans on you as his emotional crutch, you will find yourself in the exhausting position of being his caretaker rather than his partner. And that will drain your feminine energy and destroy your attraction to him over time.

Get The Relationship Of Your Dreams

If any of these signs resonate with you, it’s time to take action. You deserve a man who loves, adores, and chooses you. A man who makes you feel safe, cherished, and protected. But in order to attract that man, you need to understand the right strategies to inspire a healthy, masculine relationship.

Take our FREE “Magnetize Your Man” quiz today and discover how to get a loving, long-term, and committed relationship with the man you desire. Click the link HERE to get started now!