5 EXAMPLES OF CONTEMPT IN RELATIONSHIPS & SIGNS OF CONTEMPT IN RELATIONSHIPS ? Overcoming contempt in a relationship is super important and if you’d like to start healing contempt in relationships then knowing these key examples to look for will be your first step! They say that familiarity breeds contempt in relationships, and knowing how contempt destroys relationships will really help you to avoid this contempt relationship killer. Because, yes, contempt kills relationships and knowing these contempt in relationships examples will be your first step to STOP feeling contempt in a relationship once-and-for-all!
Would you like to discover the top five signs and examples of contempt in relationships? Hi, I’m Antia Boyd, founder and creator of the Magnetize Your Man Method. And if you are new to my channel, don’t forget to subscribe below so you get notified for the next juicy articles coming your way to help you to attract that right man for you. So contempt can be expressed through many different ways, it can be really painful, and it is super important to look out for. So here are the five signs. ?
Yes, this is actually pretty straightforward. You’ll actually notice when he starts making fun of you, when he’s like giving you short handed change, so to say. And there is not like appreciation or uplifting you, but rather diminishing. Like your value, diminishing your personality, diminishing who you are and just really looking out for that.
I actually experienced that one time when I dated a guy and he just loved to put me down, especially in front of his friends. And then later on he would say, “Oh, no, no, no, “I was just kidding.” So it starts with that, with that abuse. This is really emotional abuse. It’s disrespect, especially if it’s in front of other people and it’s time for you to set that boundary with him.
2. Framing Themselves As Superior
Now, this I actually witnessed with my own parents where they were always making sure to put the other person down so they feel superior. So there’s this comparison that’s getting in the way there as well and in general, just putting others down, belittling them as well. And basically saying, look at me, look how great I am and look at you and how bad you are.
Like you’re not accomplishing anything. Look at you, you’re like the most horrible mother. You’re the most horrible dad. you’re not taking care of anything. You’re not compassionate or you’re not loving or you’re not smart. So check, okay, where is this person putting themselves into a superior position above you and putting you down?
3. Eye Rolling
So this is actually something that you can easily see in the other person. So just in general like I’m annoyed by you. Like I’m you don’t have anything important to say. It’s sort of like that energy about oh, my God, really. Like oh, my God, like not taking you seriously at all. And just invalidating you tremendously, devaluing you and not only that, but it’s almost like a little bit of like this condescension that goes with that eye rolling.
And of course it’s like actually a lack of expression, like really authentic expression, but instead it’s just sort of like this ironic energy. It’s this distorted energy. It’s oh, my God, really. Seriously, right now? And this is of course a defense mechanism from the other person, but nevermind, like you’ll still see it as you experience it eye rolling and not taking you seriously.
4. Ignoring You
So like you could say whatever you want and he’ll just walk away, but he’ll sort of brush it off and say, “Oh, whatever you say, who cares anyways?” And there’s this punishment, this withdrawal, you don’t get any attention at all. If this happens to you, also see like where did you experience that in your childhood? Where did you observe that with your parents?
This is a very toxic way of communicating and relating to each other. So where were your parents showing up like that flat out ignoring? Which is of course the highest level of disrespect and flat out mean and cruel to simply walk away, because it’s basically saying, to me, you don’t even exist. Like you’re not even there, like you’re not even breathing, like you don’t even have any needs. You don’t have the right to say anything. You don’t matter.
So that’s the energy that partner is sending. That’s what you start receiving, or when you are ignoring the other person, that’s the signals that you are sending to the other person. So really the worst signal you could receive. Instead, you really want to see, okay, what is really going on in your relationship that there is so much toxicity happening. Like what is going on?
Oh, my goodness, so an example of this would be when you have a certain accent and your partner just mimics that accent, but does it in a condescending way. Or maybe you tend to be joyful and happy and excited and they mimic you, they’re like , isn’t that so cute? And it’s stabbing, that stab in the heart. Or maybe you cry. You have an emotional expression, the mimicking of that could be “aw, you’re so sad right now.”
Like just really going into the cycle of mimicking, but actually not in an authentic mirroring way, but actually with the intention to really, really diminish your self-esteem, your worthiness, your self-expression. A lot of times also narcissists do that as well. Just really belittling like your, invalidating your emotions. So definitely watch out for that.
The important thing here would be really setting boundaries and being really clear that it’s absolutely unacceptable to be mimicked in any way, shape, or form. Why is that contempt there? Why is that hostility there? Like what is not being communicated? Because that is really toxic.
So those are the five signs where you really see if you have contempt in a relationship. And of course the question of the day is which of those signs are really most predominant in your relationship with your partner and which one helps you the most to be really uncovered and what are you going to do about it? So leave me the comments right below.
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